In this post today, you will discover the top 15 relationship deal breakers you must not ignore in a relationship you may be in if they are present.
As good as being in a relationship is, there are certain things, which that relationship must not have for it to be healthy and worth investing in in the long term.
But very often, relationships come with their own issues some can cause a relationship to end if not attended to or dealt with on time.
Yes, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship as there are no perfect people. Regardless, there are things in a relationship that if not taken care of will make you call it quits.
Moreover, you will find out in this post if you are wondering what relationship deal breakers are. Before that, let us first define what relationship deal breakers are.
What Are Relationship Deal Breakers?
Relationship deal breakers are simply anything if not attended to will make you call it quits on that relationship regardless of how long you have been with that relationship.
In addition, you don’t surely want those things in your relationship you intend to be with for a long haul. Otherwise, that relationship is doomed to fail from the start.
This is why you need to be careful with the person you want to be in a relationship with or want to spend the rest of your life with.
You should ensure that any person you want to share your future with does not contain these deal breakers listed here like unresolved issues with a troublesome ex.
With that said, here are the 15 relationship deal breakers you must not ignore in a relationship and ideally call it quits when they appear to avoid future trouble.
15 Non-Negotiable Relationship Deal Breakers
Here are the top 15 deal breakers of a relationship, which will cause any relationship to come to an abrupt end if not attended to early on time.
- You Are An Option & Not A Priority
- Differences In Beliefs & Core Values
- Too Much Drama
- Money Issues
- Unequal You With An Unbeliever
- Uncontrolled Anger
When it comes to relationship deal breakers, pride is high on that list because you can’t reason together with prideful and arrogant people.
These are people who can’t be corrected when wrong or admit their mistakes which is why so many marriages and relationships are struggling today.
In a good & healthy relationship, both parties admit their mistakes and apologize for them instead of displaying g the I don’t care attitude most people do.
If you are in a relationship and you notice your partner is too proud or stubborn to be corrected when wrong, terminate that relationship with immediate effect to avoid future troubles.
For a relationship to function, humility is required by both parties. On a woman’s part, pride must be gotten rid of while on a man’s part arrogance and egotism must be abandoned.
2. You Are An Option & Not A Priority
Being in a relationship where you regarded as an option or a spare tire is simply a waste of your precious time you can utilize elsewhere like improving a craft.
In such relationships, you are only useful to someone if they want something from you but after that, you are history and relegated into the past.
A relationship where you are an option rather than a priority must be terminated if you notice that the other party isn’t taking you seriously or has future plans with you.
Life is simply too short to waste your time with people who were never meant to be with you throughout your entire life journey, to begin with.
Only choose to be in a godly relationship with someone who will value you and treat you as a priority in their lives with future plans with you. Never be a spare tire for someone. You were not put into his world to be an insurance policy of someone else’s life.
Abuse whether physical, verbal or emotional is among the most serious relationship deal breakers which can end a relationship if not attended to.
You must never allow anyone to abuse you in any form because true love isn’t abusive in any way and if that person claims to love you, that person won’t abuse you in the first place.
If you find yourself being abused in a relationship, it’s time to evaluate that relationship if it’s worth holding on to before irreparable emotional damage is done to you.
An abusive relationship isn’t a relationship you must waste your time with hoping that things will change. They don’t change in most cases.
Look for healthy relationships which will help you grow and make you feel valued and not taken advantage of. Remember, you are not a punching bag for anyone to freely y punch.
If one of the parties in a relationship is selfish and only want things to always go his or her way, that a serious issue that can’t be overlooked.
Especially when that relationship is one-sided and only about this other person’s needs and wants and not your wants and needs too.
For a relationship to function and stand the test of time, both parties need to have a selfless heart for one another. Or else, it’s just a matter of time before a nasty break up occurs without warning.
Nowadays, so many relationships don’t last due to selfishness on both parties or one of the parties in that relationship. Everyone is all about me these days and not about the well-being of the other person.
If you find yourself in a relationship where it’s all about this person, it’s better to end that relationship as soon as possible. The earlier you do that, the better.
A relationship where the couple disrespects each other especially verbally or physically isn’t likely to last long and stand a test of time till death parts you.
Respect for each other is very crucial for any relationship to last. Without respect, it’s just a matter of time before that relationship comes to an abrupt end.
Women are guiltier about this. Men are too but not to the extent of women. Regardless, both man and woman must respect each other and treat each other as grown adults and not 10-year toddlers.
If you are a lady, learn to respect your man you are within a relationship by your attitude and how you talk to him. It’s that important. After all, if you sincerely love your man, why will you disrespect or belittle him? It makes no sense.
Men too, learn to respect and honour your ladies and don’t treat them like they are your young sisters. If both parties do that, that relationship or marriage will last until death parts them. Treat your lady like a queen & she will treat you like a king in return.
Stubbornness is one of the most potent relationship deal breakers which can end any relationship if not taken care of early.
Both men and women are guilty of this but ladies are pretty skilful at that even more so than men. So, if you are a man, be careful with that woman you want to be your life partner.
There is no way you can move forward in a relationship if one or both parties in that relationship are stubborn like goats and don’t want to back down at all costs.
Remember, a relationship is about compromise and any long-lasting relationship requires some compromises on both parties.
You can’t always have it your way all the time. That’s not what life is all about. if you notice early on that your partner is stubborn & always want things to go him or her way, it’s wise to break up with that person earlier to avoid unnecessary future headaches.
A relationship that is full of nothing but lies, cheating, hypocrisies and deceit on either party won’t last long as a relationship demands honesty on both parties to work.
If you are in a relationship that is nothing but smokes and mirrors, just know you are wasting your time which is better spent elsewhere on doing something more productive.
So many relationships whether in church or not are like that nowadays as most of them are driven by lust and not real selfless love.
Most people are only interested in what they can get in the other person be it money, sex, attention and so on rather than what they can give are contribute to that relationship for the betterment of the other person.
Done waste your time with such phoney relationships which are just there to swindle you and waste your time. Throw such useless relationships in the bin to save yourself from unnecessary heartbreaks. They aren’t worth your time.
8. Differences In Core Values & Beliefs
If you differ in values and beliefs, there is no way the two of you can be together because two people can’t be together unless they agree.
Core values are very important in every person’s life as core values are the mirror image of who we truly are at the core.
Therefore, if you are in a relationship where there is a fatal misalignment in core value and beliefs between the two of you, breaking up is the best option for both of you.
As I have said earlier, no matter how hard you try to make that relationship work, it won’t as two people must first agree for them to be together according to (Amos 3:2).
So, if you are in any relationship which doesn’t agree with your core values especially godly principles of a godly relationship, you need to ditch that relationship that is doomed to fail from the start. There are way better options out there waiting for you.
A relationship that is toxic is very unhealthy for both parties involved and can have long-lasting physiological repercussions if not taken care of early.
Being in a toxic relationship is non-negotiable if you understand your self-worth and value because if you do, you won’t allow anyone to pollute you with their toxic energy or vibes.
Relationships with toxic vibes are just there to bring you down with their never-ending toxic drama as toxic people hate seeing others happy while they are miserable.
This is why a toxic relationship is a no go for anyone who wants to grow and progress in life as toxic relationships only hinder you from growing and becoming the best version of you.
Break up from any toxic relationship you may be in and choose healthy, fulfilling and godly relationships which will help you grow in Christ and bring out the best in you.
10. Too Much Drama
Drama is among the most serious deal breakers of a relationship which can lead to a break up if the drama is not addressed on time.
This is because relationships rigged and bugged with drama are very unhealthy and very emotionally draining to a person.
And not everyone tolerates drama in their lives and I am one of such people because life is simply too short for unnecessary drama with immature adults.
If you are like with a zero-tolerance policy towards drama, you certainly won’t be in a relationship that is full of nothing but drama.
Relationships which are full of drama are not good for your emotional health and wellbeing long term and are better left alone with their drama.
If one of the parties in a relationship is controlling and possessive of the other, that’s a serious issue that can’t be taken lightly.
Remember, though you are the two of you in a relationship, you are still an individual and no one can take that away from you.
You are still a person with free will free to make your own individual life choices which don’t always have to always conform to the wishes of that controlling person in that relationship.
A controlling relationship is just as good as a prison because you are not free to express yourself fully without being harshly criticized for doing what you had to do or making the choices you needed to make.
Never allow yourself to be in a controlling relationship that makes you feel like a caged bird. You are still an individual with freedom of choice and no one can take that away from you.
Lies in a relationship are one of the most potent relationship deal breakers which can bring any relationship down to its knees.
Honesty is very crucial for any relationship to work out and last and the reason why most relationships don’t last and end in painful breakups is that most people are cheats.
There are simply so many cheats and liars that finding that person who will be honest and sincere with you is like looking at a needle in a hair stack.
Any relationship based on lies won’t last and will come crashing down in no time because they are like houses built on sand as honesty is the foundation of any long-lasting relationship.
So, if the person you are in a relationship with is constantly cheating on you, it’s time to reassess that relationship and ditch it altogether if the cheat isn’t willing to change.
13. Money Issues
Believe it or not, money is a very serious topic that can’t be ignored in a relationship especially if you are not on the same page in that area.
For example, you may realize that your spending habits are very different from each other especially when the other is reckless in his or her spending habits.
Before deciding to be in a relationship with anyone, it’s good to learn more about the spending habits of the person you want to be in a relationship with if they are compatible with your own.
This is because being in a relationship with someone who is lavish and materialistic in spending habits or wants s every new toy which comes out there will create future unnecessary financial problems father down the road.
If you find yourself in a relationship where you can’t agree on your spending habits, you are better off breaking up with each other to avoid unnecessary arguments over money which is just a piece of paper and chemical anyway.
14. Unequal Yoke With An Unbeliever
This may sound strange to most people out there who aren’t truly Christian but it’s a serious issue that must not be ignored as well.
As I said earlier, two people need to be in an agreement for any type of relationship to work out. Otherwise, it’s just a matter of time before you go separate ways due to irreconcilable differences between the two of you.
If you are a Christian reading this, you only need to seek godly relationships with a godly partner based on purity and not lust which is common among these worldly relationships.
You should desist from any ungodly relationship which will cause you to do wrong things like sexual immorality, drugs or doing other wrong things to avoid future trouble.
Any ungodly relationship with an unbeliever must be cut off as a different spirit from that of a real Christian controls unbelievers which are usually pride and stubbornness.
15. Uncontrolled Anger
Lastly and not least, uncontrolled anger is very dangerous in a relationship and if you are not careful, you might be sent to your early grave before your appointed time.
So many people have been sent to their early graves before their time all because they were in an abusive relationship with a person who had uncontrolled rage or temper over trivial things.
This is why there are so much domestic violence and physical abuse in relationships these days as people have lost respect and dignity for one another.
If you discover that the person you are in a relationship with easily detonates like a landmine over petty issues, it’s time to run for your life before you as well are sent to your early grave like others who didn’t act quickly enough.
Don’t ever be in a relationship with someone who can’t control his or her temper and always resort to physical abuse when you make a small mistake. You are not a punching bag.
These are all the top 15 relationship deal breakers I had to share with you in this post and I hope they have been of great help to you.
Now that you know them, use them to audit any relationship you may be in ensuring none of the 15 deal breakers of a relationship mentioned in this post is present.
If the relationship you are in contains any of the 15 deal breakers, you need to re-evaluate your relationship if it’s right for you to be in the long term.
Ensure that any relationship you want to be in long term does not contain any of the 15 deal breakers listed here if you want to have a fulfilling relationship you will be proud to look back on one day when all is said and done.
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